Husband Invites In-Laws on 25th Anniversary Hawaii Trip Without Spouse's Consent

A woman writing to Dear Abby expressed hurt and frustration after her husband invited his brother and sister-in-law to join their 25th anniversary trip to Hawaii without consulting her. She views the anniversary as a private celebration, not a group retreat, and feels disrespected by the lack of consultation and her husband's reaction, who called her a "sourpuss" for opposing the plan. Dear Abby advised that the woman is not wrong for feeling this way, emphasizing that altering anniversary plans without mutual agreement is disrespectful. Abby suggested the woman communicate her feelings directly to her sister-in-law and decide whether to proceed with the group trip or celebrate privately. The advice was consistent across multiple publications, highlighting the importance of mutual respect and communication in planning significant milestones.